If there is something we all search for our whole life, it is true, real happiness.
But what is really true happiness, and how do you know that you have it? How do you even know that you are on the right path of finding it? Today I am going to give some of my personal, best tips on achieving and maintaining true happiness. In some ways it’s easy, in other ways it’s hard.
What you first have to do is decide that YOU are going to be happy, that YOU deserve it and that’s why you are reading this.
1. Believe in and feel that you actually deserve it. Because you do.
This is absolutely crucial for achieving true happiness because if you don’t even feel like and believe that you deserve it – How is it ever going to happen? You may be fooling yourself as well as it’s pretty easy to say “Of course I deserve it! ” But do you REALLY feel it? This has taken me many many years to believe in and feel truly 100% and even if I’m there now, it does not mean that I don’t have to work on this every single day. There are so many things that happen in our life that so easy puts us down, but we have to choose to love ourselves, to be good to ourselves and teach ourselves that we do deserve to be happy. It’s also important to not (!) feel selfish about this and to actually understand that taking care of you is the opposite of being selfish. The better you feel about yourself and your life, the better person you become, the less you feel jealousy, the less you feel like you have to compete, the less you care about what other thinks, and the less you are caged. You become free.
2. Follow your heart and intuition more, not only your mind or routines. Train yourself to do this.
This is very important on your way to happiness. These days we follow society rules, we wake up, go to work and do all the stuff we are told we are “suppose” to do and be, but what do you actually feel about it? What do you feel about your life and the way you are living it? Of course not everybody has the luxury of doing whatever they want every single day, but by training your intuition, gut feeling and listening to your heart, the more steps you will be able to take towards what will make you really, truly happy – What kind of work you actually feel good about doing, where you really want to live, what kind of relationship you really want to have and how you want to live your life. Nothing is wrong, as long as you are not breaking the law or hurting others. Learn to listen to yourself, there is a reason you have the mechanism inside and you deserve to be you, and follow your heart and desires.
3. Take care of your health and body. Your body is your temple.
This is extremely important in finding true happiness. This does not mean that you have to live, eat or workout in a certain kind of way – This means that you should live, eat and workout the way YOU feel good about. If you hate spinning classes, you shouldn’t take them. If you hate eating tuna, don’t eat it but also remember that sometimes on the way to achieving the good health and the balance you want in your life, body and mind you may have to push yourself a little bit, be open to try new things and don’t give up the first second something is hard. It does not take that long to create a routine and trust me – I understand how it is to hate working out, I understand how it feels like when you are giving up more of the junk food and sugar, but also trust me when I say that today I have found the perfect balance for me – I workout when I want to, I eat what I want and I live how I want. If I want chocolate you can be sure I am gonna allow myself to eat it, but it doesn’t mean I am going to get the biggest chocolate bar in the store. It’s all about finding a healthy balance for you and by giving a little effort, you can do it.
4. Learn about toxic people, toxic situations and how to avoid and get rid of it.
Toxic people is everywhere and so is toxic situations. Sometimes the way we grew up and our past experiences creates something inside of us that keep on drawing us towards these people and situations. Sometimes the toxic person may even be yourself. It is very important on your way to true happiness to learn, understand and avoid the toxic in life as much as possible. As for me, my personal struggle has been when it comes to toxic relationships. This is something that has followed me as long as I can remember and it wasn’t until I experienced and met two extremely toxic people over a period of time, that I myself had to understand I attracted them to me and I stayed even if it got me me in very dangerous situations over and over. After I experienced a big trauma I reached a point where it was so bad that I did not know what to do. I didn’t know how it was going to happen but I never gave up on my happiness and joy over all the other good things in life. I prayed for help and I was saved. If you need professional help to learn more about yourself for you to grow, get it. Whatever you think can help, try it. Remember to be aware of you feel around certain people, how they affect you, how you let yourself be treated in different situations with different people, and how you respond to it. Surround yourself with people that make you feel good, that gives something back and that doesn’t drain you and your energy. It is absolutely possible to do this but you have to put in the work and you have to really want to be happy. You are important enough and you deserve it.
5. Follow your passion, dreams and desires.
It’s so easy to get scared away from following your true passion, dream and desires but who is scaring you? It’s probably yourself, maybe it’s people around you who doesn’t believe in you, maybe it’s your boss, maybe it’s the society. I always ask myself “Do I really want to be the person who one day thinks WHAT IF?“. No. I absolutely do not and so I have decided not to be that person. I would rather regret something I tried, screw up several times, get back up on my feet and achieve what true happiness, success and love is for me. Everyone is different and everybody has different dreams, passions and desires. What yours are is only for you to know, the question is – Are you going to follow them in this life? This is your life, your time, make a decision.
6. Break out of your comfort zone.
Breaking out of your comfort zone can be very hard, especially for some people. We all have that one person we truly look up to with stars in our eyes, but what if you could do and be exactly what you look the most up to? I absolutely love the quote “Life starts at the end of your comfort zone” because it’s true. Every single day I have to work on getting myself out of my comfort zone and I promise you guys – I am absolutely terrified. Sometimes I’m so scared I can’t do it, but I will never give up. Some people call me brave and I can’t help but laugh, but what I have realized the last year of my life is that of course some people are going to call me brave because we are all scared of different things in life. Some are scared of opening their hearts, some are scared of trying something new when it comes to work related, some are scared of going on a plane. It’s all about following what YOU want to achieve in this life and little by little (or go BIG and do all at once if you can ) break out of the comfortable comfort zone. You are going to be happier and become the person you really are deep inside.
7. Work on being independent and on letting go when the time is right to let something or someone go.
Being independent feels good. Being independent makes you strong, brave and keeps you grounded. By being dependent on another person whether it’s emotional, financial or something else, will always keep a little bit (or a lot) of a strain on you. You are absolutely capable of doing whatever you want to do on your own, you do absolutely not need another person’s love. Love is suppose to feel good, equal and you are suppose to feel free, even when being in a relationship. Ask yourself questions like “Would I be comfortable eating at a nice restaurant by myself?” and “Do I like spending time alone, only with me?” If you don’t, try to work on figuring out why and go on from there. When you feel good in your own company, you will not only feel even better in other people’s company, you will also help other people feel good about themselves. It’s all a feel good thing and you are able to do it.
8. Get fresh air and be close to our beautiful earth as much as you can.
By getting fresh air, being near clear water, trees, sand and the nature , something happens inside of you – You become happier. This does not have to take much time and effort. There is a reason I personally love to workout and run outside. I love the beach. I love the woods. I love nature. I have to feel the air on my skin, the sun in my face, the rain in my hair. Get out there as much as you can!
9. Be kind to people, animals and the world.
By being kind and give from your heart, you get the same back. It feels good and it is suppose to feel good. People that are jealous, mean, cruel and evil are not (!) truly happy. By being happy, you don’t have any need to do anything of this. We should all take care of each other as we are all one (remember this) and by doing this from your heart is going to make your life so much better. Give out what you want to feel and receive yourself, and always ask yourself if you are doing something good in this world. There’s always something you can do.
10. Focus on the good in as many situations as possible and in your everyday life.
Having a positive mindset is not always easy, but it is possible. This doesn’t mean that there will not be situations where you feel completely hopeless. devastated, broken or sad. This is life and life is not perfect, but you still have some control over it, you still have some control of YOU and you still have the right to choose in any kind of situation. Allow yourself to feel sad, disappointed or angry – It’s all natural, it’s all normal and it’s all ok, but don’t forget at the same time work on not dwelling at issues or the past, work on not getting upset at stuff that is absolutely not worth it, work on crying it out, get it out and then put it behind you. This is something you are able to train yourself getting better at, and this is worth working on if you want to make the most out of your life as possible. Honestly – Why shouldn’t you? No matter what anybody has told you before, no matter how you have felt before, no matter what experiences you have in the past – It’s up to you now. You are the master of your life, you are the master of your mind, you are in control – Choose happiness!